5 Life Lessons I Learned the Hard Way


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Maybe the title of this sounds cheesy. Or you’re asking yourself why a 20 year old is trying to give you life advice. But I know things. Some I learned the hard way. Either through others, or my own experience.

To start – I’ve never lived the poshest life. I’ve never been most popular. My family has never really had a lot of money, and I only have two close friends.

My world has always revolved around my family, more than anything else. And I don’t find anything wrong with that. I adore my family, and the friends that became, and the boyfriend who wishes to marry into it.

But, as with everyone, life isn’t always gumdrops and butterflies. Sometimes, a storm comes and you’re powerless to do anything. So you just sit there, and wait through the thunder and lightening, and do your best to handle it. These are the lessons that I learned during those black licorice days.

  1. Never take anything for granted.

In life, you are given plenty of things; friends, family, passion, etc. But you never know when those things are going to be taken away. Just because you have something now, doesn’t mean you will tomorrow. So never take the things around you for granted – people included.

  1. Appreciate what you have when you have it.

This is kind of like the first one, but also different. Not only should you not take things for granted, but you should appreciate them. Appreciate your family, your house, your pets – things in life happen, and you never know what’s going to happen.

  1. Always tell people how much they mean to you.

You never know when someone is feeling down or unappreciated or just needs a hug. Sometimes, you don’t know until it’s too late to make it right. So tell the people you love that you do, and always be there for them. You never know when they’re in need a friendly ear the most.

  1. Always be true to yourself.

The people around you will always try and shape you – some for better and others for worse. They’ll want you to be more like them, or more one way than another. But never ever let them have their way. You are your own person. You know who you are, you know how you are and what you want. Never let another person, no matter how important they are to you, try and change these. In the end, you’ll have done nothing but exhausted yourself and be miserable.

It took me a very long time to learn this.

  1. Never let people take you for granted.

This one is still hard for me. I tend to be too nice, and end up doing things I don’t want to. Or fake smiling when I’m around someone I don’t want to be. For me, telling somebody ‘no’ is hard – I don’t want to hurt their feelings. Although, sometimes, they need a little sense knocked into them. So, just as you shouldn’t take anything or anyone for granted, never let anyone take advantage of you.

Sometimes, things can only be learned the hard way. Some people need them to happen the hard, to open up their eyes. Only foolish people close them one they’ve been awakened, but some of us see the world in a new light.

Life sucks sometimes, but there is a lot of beauty in it, too. So just hang in there.

What’re some things you’ve learned the hard way?

Thanks for Reading!

~ Amber

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Comments (19)

    1. Thank you. Life can be hard sometimes, but you just have to play with the cards you’ve been dealt. And try to make the best out of a bad situation. Learning things through bad experiences is never fun, though. Even if they do teach you valuable lessons in the end.

  1. These are awesome! The last one is my present lesson. Learning to communicate what I expect when people make demands

  2. Most (many, a lot?) your age are too self-absorbed to get even a fraction of the five life skills you mention. Stick with these five, and you will have a successful life! Good for you! Frankly, this list was the one thing that prompted me to follow your blog.

  3. Amber ~ very wise words.
    Can I offer one more piece of advice? Read this again every year or so. There have been times in my life when I’ve “known” these things, but life happens and some of these lessons slip by the wayside. Especially being true to myself and not being taken for granted. The first three are things I can control, but all too often we don’t know what we’ve got till it’s gone (to quote a song that was waaaay before your time). Numbers four and five have to do with relationships with other people and there are a lot of manipulators out there who will do their best to get the upper hand.
    You are a very quick learner, in spite of what you said at number four. Many (most?) people three and four times your age never do grasp the importance of these simple lessons.

  4. All good wisdom – long may you gather and practice it/them.

    Here’s one i’m currently trying to fully wrap my brain and heart (and it seems now stomach/gut) around…

    Life and the Universe demand a balance – if you become unbalanced in one aspect of your life the Universe will work to evening things out.

    If you want a happy life learn to appreciate the good times and the bad times because there will often be the same amount of both. While travelling on the Circle/Wheel of Life half the time you’re going up and half you’re coming back down again – and so on. 😉

    Hope your wheel has many rotations and you enjoy an awesome ride!


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